Frequently Asked Questions.

What is a Celebrant?
A Celebrant is a trained ceremony expert! The Celebrant's mission is to create a ceremony that reflects the needs, beliefs, cultural background, value, and tastes of those involved. More information on Celebrancy can be found at the Celebrant USA Foundation's website.

Are you a real minister?
Yes, I am an ordained non-denominational minister, and legal to perform marriages in the state of New Jersey.

What's the process like? How do you write our ceremony if you don't know us?
We'll meet for an informal interview, where I can share information with you, and learn about your needs and desires for your wedding. From there, you'll get "homework" - an in depth worksheet you'll each fill out that will help me get to know you and understand exactly what you are looking for. I'll then write your ceremony for you, and send the draft to you for approval. I am available to rehearse the ceremony with you, and will officiate the ceremony on your wedding day. Throughout the process, I am available for unlimited phone and email consultations.

Do I get to read the ceremony beforehand?
Yes! I will take information from our discussions and a worksheet I give out to create your ceremony. Drafts will be sent to you via email, and I offer unlimited consultations on these drafts. When it comes to the ceremony, there will be no surprises on your wedding day.

How far in advance do you get booked?
I recommend booking your officiant at least one year to six months before your wedding, for the best availability.  But don't let that scare you away if it's less than six months!  Send me an email to check my availability.

Should I write my own vows?
Writing your own vows can be a beautiful personal detail to your wedding ceremony. I can help you to create and write your vows. If you'd prefer not to, I can offer suggestions for vows.

Do you perform civil unions?
Yes! I would be honored to preside over your civil union.  The process for civil unions is similar to the typical wedding processes.

What do you wear?
I usually wear slacks and a blazer, suiting or a dress, based on the formality of your wedding. I try to coordinate with your wedding colors, if possible.  I don't wear a judge's robe, vestements, or anything like that.  If there is something specific you'd like me to wear, we can discuss it!  Please take a look at my gallery for some examples of outfits I've worn.

How long do your ceremonies take?
It all depends on what it's in it!  My wedding or civil union ceremonies usually last between 15-25 minutes.

Do you stay for the reception or rehearsal dinner?
I am always honored when a couple invites me to the reception or rehearsal dinner, but it is by no means an obligation - absolutely no pressure for an invitation.

Should we have a rehearsal?
Rehearsal can help assuage nervous bridal party members, and ensure everything will run smoothly the day of.  If you have rituals involving a number of people, or children in your bridal party, I think a rehearsal is a great idea.  It's also a great time to make sure your processional and recessional work, and everyone knows where to go.  Rehearsals usually take two to three times as long as the ceremony itself - we'll run through it twice, to make sure everyone knows where to go, and I'll provide queue sheets and information for everyone involved.  Please mention you'd like to have a rehearsal when you contact me or when we meet, and I'll include the price in the quote.

Can we have a glass breaking/wine/unity candle/broom jumping/handfasting ritual in our ceremony?
I would love to integrate any rituals or traditions into your ceremony that you'd like. If I am not familiar with the ritual, I will research it for you. That's the beautiful thing about writing your own wedding ceremony - you can personalize it to your own taste and tradition, and include rituals to really make it your own.  If you're looking for some ideas on different rituals to use, check out my blog for some inspiration!

Can you perform a Renewal of Vows?
A Renewal of Vows is a wonderful ceremony honoring your relationship and marriage, and celebrating your life together. I would be happy to work with you and create a unique ceremony for your vow renewal.

How do I change my name?
After the wedding ceremony, obtain an official copy of your wedding license from the town hall/registrar where your wedding was performed.  Get more than one - you never know when a bureau may need to keep a copy, or if you need to mail it somewhere.  You can use this document to change your name with Social Security, the DMV, and your bank account.  Some credit cards may not require proof of the marriage - you simply need to call to have them change your name.

How do I get my license?
I'll go over the license details at our no-obligation interview/meeting.  It's pretty easy!  But  the most up to date information is always available  on New Jersey's website:
How to apply for your wedding license.
How to apply for a civil union license.